Product Description

CHANGE THE WAY YOU DEAL WITH OTHER PEOPLE - AND TRANSFORM YOUR
LIFE!

You might think you are a people person. But are you really having the
right effect on those around you? Are you actually undermining success for
yourself - and others?

Be prepared to have your world turned upside down and open your eyes to a
whole new way of living and working.
Through a series of entertaining stories, this astonishing book will reveal
how most of us are not fulfilling our potential - in our personal lives and
at work - because of 'self-deception'. It will show you how to escape your
box of self-deception, and change for the better in a lasting way.

Don't focus on what others are doing wrong - Do focus on what you can do to
help.

Don't worry whether others are helping you - Do worry whether you are
helping others.

Don't try to be perfect - Do try to be better.

By following this book's advice, you can deepen your personal happiness,
strengthen your relationships, improve your leadership skills, build
teamwork - and increase your success in everything you choose to pursue.

YOU'LL NEVER SEE YOURSELF - OR OTHERS - IN THE SAME WAY AGAIN

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #14103 in Books
• Published on: 2007-05-03
• Original language: English
• Binding: Paperback
• 192 pages

Stephen R. Covey, Author of 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
"Profound...engaging...packed with insight. I couldn't recommend it more
highly"

Synopsis
You might think you are a people person. But do you really treat others well? And how can you improve your dealings with those around you? Be prepared to have your world turned upside down and open your eyes to a whole new way of living and working. Through a series of entertaining stories, this astonishing book will show you how most of us are not fulfilling our potential - in our personal lives and at work - because of 'self-deception'. It will show you how to escape your box of self-deception, and change for the better in a lasting way: don't focus on what others are doing wrong. Do focus on what you can do to help; don't worry whether others are helping you. Do worry whether you are helping others; and, don't try to be perfect. Do try to be better. By following this book's advice, you can deepen your personal happiness, strengthen your relationships, improve your leadership skills, build teamwork - and increase your success in everything you choose to pursue.

About the Author
THE ARBINGER INSTITUTE is a management training and consulting firm and
scholarly consortium that includes people trained in business, law,
economics, philosophy, the family, education and psychology. Together, the
members of Arbinger work to apply the sweeping implications of
self-deception and its solution to all aspects of organisational, community
and family life.

Customer Reviews

Getting out of the box
I came across this book by reference to learn the subject area more in depth. I found the track of case studies initially a bit annoying. Yet keeping going within day's one behavioural situation has flashed upon me. You immediately re-think your reaction or others. At least once you will catch yourself in the box. One of the quickest approaches to put into practice.

Resistance is useless
I first read this book several years ago but the ideas in it have stayed with me and increased in relevance over time. I read it mainly in the hope of finding ways to 'help' other people improve and so was very resistant to the idea that I might be contributing to the problems they were causing me. However, the simplicity, elegance and depth of the concepts rang so true and were so useful to me, in all areas of my life, that I have come back to it time and time again. At the heart of Arbinger work is the concept that we are continually making a choice in our `way of being' - to be responsive and to see others as people, whose needs and desires are just as important as our own, or to be resistant and to see others as objects, whose needs and desires are not as important as out own. Connected to this is the idea of self deception, which you could describe as the assumption that I am not a problem. When I am self-deceived (which, let's face it, is most of the time!) I am creating my own problems, but I am unable to see this, and I resist any attempt to solve these problems even though I say that is what I want. Liberation lies in the continuing efforts to 'get out of the box' and see people and situations without distortion and this book provides many illustrations and tools to help you do this.