Product Description

This volume is about relationships, body language and how we relate to each other. It contains strategies for love and business which include: charming body language and gestures - the exclusive smile, eyes glued to the other person, "come hither" hands with palms open etc; never leave home without the latest news; how to give the killer compliment - not too general and not too frequently given; the premature "we" - effective empathizing; and how to work a party - including making an entrance, be the chooser not the choosee, and mingling not munching (for all those who head straight for the food table!).

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #680 in Books
• Published on: 1999-03-01
• Released on: 2008-06-30
• Original language: English
• Binding: Paperback
• 352 pages

From the Publisher
By the bestselling author of ‘How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You’). This book is written in the same hilarious style with its 92 simple and effective techniques.

About the Author
Leil Lowndes, an internationally recognized communications expert , has conducted communication seminars for major US corporations, foreign governments and the U.S Peace Corps. She has appeared on hundreds of television and radio programmes. She is author of the bestselling 'How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You'. She is the bestselling author of How To Make Anyone Fall in Love with You (also by Thorsons).

Customer Reviews

Great book, techniques work, but author doesn't like people
Hi

I found this book interesting; I've tried many of the techniques and found that they work very well.

Unfortunately, the author has little genuine warmth, empathy or interest in other people.

One example (not untypical). The authors 'good friend' had started a business and Leil (the author) introduced her to an important - powerful - contact. The author's friend 'messed up' when she contacted the 'important person' - she didn't have a pen and asked him to wait a few minutes whilst she got one. The author's reaction 'that's the last time I'll introduce her to anyone'. Jeez - I'm glad she's not my 'good friend'.

I thoroughly recommend it to anybody who wants to communicate more effectively i.e. get what they want out of other people - respect, friendship, business, a job, etc.

However don't let it turn you into a self-centered, manipulative, jerk.

Remember that communications techniques can help in one off relationships (e.g. a job interview, sales call), can help lubricate new relationships (a first date), and increase your social standing (working a party, or social engagement).

They can't help in long-term relationships (when a date becomes your girl/guy, on the job, parenting, etc.) For that you need to invest in your character.

Happy reading

Afam Edozie

Useful book but not what it says on the tin
Dont get me wrong, this is a really useful book with lots of great ideas, all backed up with research into human nature.
A lot of the stuff is common sense, but it is useful to have it confirmed so that the ideas are in the forefront of your mind when you are next socially climbing. (If thats what you want to do!!). However this is really a book for those that already have quite competent social skills and are socially confident. It is also rather aimed at the American personality.
It is easy and enjoyable to read and reeks of optimism.
But it is not a lesson in the basic skills for those that are shy to talk to others, it is more about the fine-tuning of existing communication skills.

Great results so far !
I'm a reasonably successful person, if a bit shy, and I've always had the nagging feeling that if I could socialise more easily then my luck and my career would improve. I set about improving my social skills and bought this book. Wow ! I read the first two techniques and as I was helping out at a trade show the next day I had the perfect opportunity to try them out. I must say that these simple techniques made a huge difference to the response I got from the customers and potential customers at the show. It seemed like they were hanging on my every word, plus I felt a lot more comfortable talking to them. I now can't wait to learn and try the other techniques.

Perhaps these techniques would seem obvious and second nature to people who are already good at socialising (good for them), but if you are one of the shy, tongue-tied people like me, then this book is worth 100 times its price, if only for spelling out what these 'obvious' techniques are. Thank you Leil !