Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #17272 in DVD
• Released on: 2004-05-24
• Rating: Suitable for 15 years and over
• Number of discs: 1
• Format: PAL
• Original language: English
• Number of discs: 1
• Running time: 107 minutes

Amazon.co.uk Review
The movies have their share of gray-haired men romancing young women, but the spectacle of a sexual relationship between an old woman and a young man is still exotic enough for The Mother to startle audiences. Newly widowed Anne Reid, sixtyish, finds herself disenchanted with her indifferent children, and drawn to a studly handyman (Daniel Craig, from Sylvia). The observant directorial hand of Roger Michell guides them through some brutally frank sex scenes, without ignoring the psychological mess that underlies it all. It comes as no surprise that this scenario springs from the mind of Hanif Kureishi, who's been poking at British propriety since My Beautiful Laundrette. The film offers no characters to actually like, which makes it a bitter course to navigate. But Anne Reid's gutsy performance, which carries zero trace of glamour, is certainly a bold venture that asks no pity. --Robert Horton

DVD Description
The most talked about and controversial British film for years, The Mother centres around an uncomfortably atypical relationship, far more shocking than that of Harold and Maude. May is an ordinary grandmother from the suburbs. When her husband dies on a family visit to London, she recedes into the background of her busy, metropolitan children’s lives. Stuck in an unfamiliar city far from home, May fears that she has become another invisible old woman whose life is more or less over. Until, that is, she falls for Darren, a man half her age who is renovating her son’s house and sleeping with her daughter.

Special Features

• Cast and crew interviews
  
• Theatrical trailer

Customer Reviews

"I don't want to grow old!"
One of the first things that struck me about "the Mother" was how disaffected, distant, and unemotional she is. In fact, her entire family seems to be so totally self-absorbed, self-obsessed and overly materialistic that not one character is at all likable. Rather than appearing as a shining beacon of love and support to her children, May (a marvelous Anne Reid), comes across as more concerned about her own failings. While ready to listen on the surface, deep down she's a middle-class, snobby, and somewhat uncaring mother who probably loves her children when it's convenient for her, but has spent the majority of her life resenting her children for stifling her when she was younger. The sexy affair she embarks on with her daughter's boyfriend, without regard for her daughter's feelings, says a lot about the years of pent-up repression inside of her.

Astutely observing the intricacies and nuances of English domestic middle-class life, director Roger Michell, allows us to peek into the lives of the elderly May and Toots (Peter Vaughan) as they visit their grown children in London. They are a long-married and well-to-do couple. Bobby (Steven Mackintosh), their busy son has a glamorous life style, a thriving business, a new house, and a wife and two children. Paula (Cathryn Bradshaw), their daughter, is a single mother, a schoolteacher, and an unpublished writer. When Toots suddenly dies of a heart attack, May, in a fit of fear and loneliness, moves in with her children to escape the solitude of her house. Her arrival at Bobby's causes problems so May goes to stay with the busy Paula.

Going back and forth from Paula's flat to Bobby's house, May meets Darren (a gorgeously sexy Daniel Craig), Bobby's robust, muscle-laden best friend who is doing some building work on the house. After Paula asks her mother to find out whether Darren wants to marry her, May becomes friendly with Darren. They have lunch together and there's obviously a connection because May kisses Darren. Soon their friendship becomes physical and with Darren sexually thrilling her, they begin an incredibly hot affair. May is a frumpy grandmother in her sixties, while Darren is a bearded, virile man in his thirties.

All the characters in this film are absolutely mired in dysfunction. May is unhappy and alone, and she fears becoming old. Her children don't particularly like her, and Paula, especially, bitterly resents her; she thinks that May's been a lousy mother who never "encouraged" her. Paula is portrayed as neurotic, hysterical and cloying, and her obsession with Darren totally gets in the way of her ability to see that Darren is kind of useless and doesn't particularly love her. Darren is also haunted: he drinks too much, copes with an autistic son, and sleeps in his car. He's always poor and seeks solace from his problems in doing lines of coke. At first Darren is nice to May, and she offers to take him on as a type of sugar mother to him, but soon she begins to see his other side.

The Mother is a beautifully acted movie with Daniel Craig and Anne Reid giving astoundingly realistic performances. The sex scenes between them both are totally realistic and beautifully done, the connection between them being far more than just sex. Reid is especially good at portraying a complicated, middle-aged woman, who is actively seeking her own fulfillment and rediscovering parts of herself that have lain dormant for years. Craig is also great as her young, spunky suitor easily portraying a good man who seems to be very kind and understanding until May, unrealistically tries to push their relationship. The Mother is a quiet, complex and very adult film that analyses, with a type of subtle restraint, the deleterious effects of selfishness, egocentricity, and self-interest on families. Mike Leonard December 04.

A surprise gem
I came across this film by accident and really liked it. It's such an interesting story (how wonderful at last to see an older woman being portrayed as a sexual being and having sex with a younger guy!) The acting from the two leads was amazing and the scenes totally believable. The film also said a lot about the fragmentation of modern families and how lonely a place the family unit can actually be. As previous reviewers have said, there are few characters to actually like in this film but whilst the two main leads play characters that are rounded and believable (if not always likeable), I found the characters of the children strangely unsatisfying and this is why I have given it four stars rather than five. The film makes it clear that May was not always an easy mother but I still found her children's hostility indifference to her slightly baffling - the two children came across as slightly two dimensional characters. However, the main focus of the film was on the relationship between Darren and May and I thought this was portrayed brilliantly. Overall, a highly recommended film.

Brilliant Ensemble Cast
Following the death of her husband - Toots, May (the beautiful Anne Reid) suddenly feels surplus to the busy, self-absorbed lives of her two children. Daughter Paula (Cathryn Bradshaw) is too busy trying to break up the marriage of lover, Darren and berating everyone for not indulging her meagre writing talent to acknowledge her mother's grief. Son, Bobby (the very under-rated Stephen Mackintosh) lets May move in with his family for a while (out of a need for a babysitter rather than any form of compassion) but his business is crumbling and he's rarely there.

Trapped in the unfamiliarity of London but too scared to go home, May wanders the streets, enjoying the freedom to get lost and generally tries to avoid confrontation with both her offspring and her grief. The only person who shows any form of sympathy towards her is Paula's lover, Darren who chats to her as he builds a conservatory at her son's house. Paula pushes them together with a mind to her mother picking his brains about whether he's going to leave his wife or not.

The couple immediately form a bond whereby they can both express how lost they feel, how they both long to escape and all the other things that her children's obsession with materialism seems to have made them immune to. Despite an age difference of over 30 years, May and Darren become lovers. He is fascinated by her earthy complexity; she finds her inner youth and passion reawakened, sadly all-too briefly.

This is a quietly probing dissection of loss and need. A wonderfully pared screenplay from the consistently brilliant Hanif Kureishi lets the actors movements and facial expressions evoke a great deal of the emotion, giving the viewer the feeling that a lot more has been expressed through dialogue than actually has.

Director, Roger Mitchell benefits from having lesser known actors in the lead roles than we are accustomed to in his films, and this said, Anne Reid is a far more convincing romantic lead than Gwyneth Paltrow in 'Changing Lanes' or Julia Roberts in 'Notting Hill,' despite being 68 years old. It's also refreshing and heartening to see a mainstream director take on an unspoken taboo such as the sexuality of older people and treat it with such respect and sensitivity. This all adds to giving the film a distinctly European feel, something that was backed up by the plaudits it received at the 2004 Cannes Film Festival. One feels this change of tone and subject matter seems to borrow something from Patrice Cheraux's take on Kureishi's last cinematic venture - 'Intimacy,' and if so, it is to be applauded.

The ensemble cast work brilliantly together. Daniel Craig turns in a multi-dimensional performance as a troubled man seeking, then rejecting redemption. Steven Mackintosh quietly steals the few scenes he is in and Cathryn Bradshaw is wildly dislikeable as the selfish, deluded daughter, dealing with and avoiding her own guilt at her father's death. But it is undoubtedly Anne Reid in the title role that gives the film its incredible warmth and power and I can only hope that this wonderfully versatile actress's career will now succumb to a similar, deserved renaissance to that experienced by her character.