Product Description

Every parent would happily give up ever scolding, punishing or
threatening if she only knew how to ensure that her toddler/child/teen
would thrive and act responsibly without such painful measures. Raising Our
Children, Raising Ourselves is the answer to this universal wish. It is not
about gentle ways to control a child, but about a way of being and of
understanding a child so she/he can be the best of herself, not because she
fears you, but because she wants to, of her own free will.
"Aldort's book should be on the must read list of all Moms and Dads. This
book could carry a subtitle: "Saving the Emotional Lives of Our Children
and The Future of Humanity.""

- James Prescott, Ph.D. Institute of Humanistic Science

"Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves operates on the radical premise
that neither child nor parent must dominate; it is for those who want to
give up scolding, threatening and punishing. Her SALVE "formula" alone is
worth the price of the book." - Peggy O'Mara Editor and Publisher of
Mothering

"Every once in awhile, a writer comes along who is comfortable speaking the
truth, no matter how much it might challenge us or make us uncomfortable.
Naomi Aldort is one of those people. In Raising Our Children, Raising
Ourselves, Naomi Aldort takes the struggle out of parenting and replaces
controlling and shaping style of parenting with one that values, trusts and
nurtures children's innate abilities and autonomy."

- Wendy Priesnitz Editor of Life Learning magazine, author of School Free
and Challenging Assumptions in Education

"In this stunning insight into human nature, Naomi Aldort opens a window
into harmonious family living. This book should to be widely read and not
just by parents but by every being who strives for a more peaceful world."

- Veronika Robinson, Editor of The Mother magazine, UK

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #29999 in Books
• Published on: 2006-01-02
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 280 pages

About the Author
Naomi Aldort, Ph.D. is a psychologist specializing in parenting.
Parents from around the globe seek Aldort's advice by phone, in person and
through her workshops and tapes/CDs. Her advice columns appear in parenting
magazines in Canada, USA, AU, UK, and translated to German, Hebrew, Dutch,
Japanese and Spanish.

Naomi Aldort is married and a mother of three. Her youngest son is
twelve-year-old cellist Oliver Aldort.

Customer Reviews

What a wonderful book
I have been exploring ways of working better with my 3yo since reading an Alfie Kohn book - and this is the answer to my prayers as it gives really practical advice about how to improve your relationship with your child so avoiding tantrums, power struggles etc. Its really helping so much

BECOME THE PARENT YOU WISH TO BE
Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves is unlike other parenting books and much more effective. I have read good advice before, but couldn't change my habits. This book gives the tools of personal growth that make it possible to be the loving mother that I really want to be. This is not esoteric philosophizing; it is useful advice with a five-step approach that is eminently doable. Each step is illustrated with story after story about parents who discover, or rediscover, the power of love as they replace controlling parenting techniques with gentle nurturing.

In applying Ms. Aldort's suggestions myself, I have found that my listening and communication skills are improving and I am definitely more mindful, more empathetic, and more flexible as a parent. Happily, my children have noticed this change and, even more happily, have emulated it in their relationships with each other, with their father, with me, and with friends. A little positive parenting goes a long way!!

Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves is a must-read, must-have book for parents who are trying to break a personal or cultural cycle of authoritarianism and start becoming the mothers and fathers they wish to be.

Our world needs this book - QUICK!
This is the best parenting book I've found - a great leap from the many modern parenting books out there. In fact, I'd say it is the only parenting book you will ever need! I am ordering many copies and actively distributing to everyone I know.

Finally, a book that spells out with crystal clarity that yes, you can respect and trust your children fully, and love them unconditionally, without any "ifs" and "buts".

Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves provides the tools for being always kind and loving in our day-to-day interactions with our children, and illustrates the guidance via eloquent real-life examples. These tools are easy to remember and put to practice, and they actually work. This book has transformed my relationship with my 10-month old, giving me permission to fully love her the way I always felt - without holding back ANYTHING! Quite a liberating shift. The guidance carries all the way from infancy through the teen years, and I am so grateful that I stumbled upon it while she is still little!

The transformative effect of the book goes way beyond parenting, as both the title, and the subtitle proposed by James Prescott on the cover ('Saving the emotional lives of our children and the future of humanity'), suggest. It lays out a readily available path to self-healing and self-realization through our relationship with our children (as well as with other people): simply by starting to examine how we respond to others a little more closely. In my humble opinion, this is one of the most important books ever written, period.

I have a wish. I grew up in France and I CANNOT WAIT to see the book translated in other languages, and start infusing its wisdom and compassion to non-English readers also. Any European publisher out there interested in making a difference? Call Naomi today, you'll do yourself and the world a favor. Our world needs this book. QUICK!