Product Description

When it comes to relationships, reality rules. We′d all like to think of ourselves as everyone′s best friend, but what′s the truth? Are you a hero or a zero to other people? Do you see yourself as others really see you? Do you need to make a fresh deposit into your relationship account before you go overdrawn?

S.U.M.O. Your Relationships will help you manage, maintain, grow and move on, in your key relationships with others and yourself. At some point in your life you are going to have to deal with difficult relationships, whether it′s with a colleague, parent, friend or partner. Isn′t it time you did a stock take of your relationships and started making the best of them?

S.U.M.O. Your Relationships has pit stops, pearls of wisdom and all the humour and inspiration you need to make the key changes in your life.  You will discover the seven S.U.M.O. realities followed by seven insights to help light the way to a brighter future.

PRAISE FOR S.U.M.O. YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

"This book is full of wisdom, common sense and practical ideas on improving relationships. An essential read."
—ALLAN PEASE, Co–author of THE DEFINITIVE BOOK OF BODY LANGUAGE and WHY MEN DON′T LISTEN AND WOMEN CAN′T READ MAPS

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #16567 in Books
• Published on: 2007-05-25
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 278 pages

Review
"Do you sometimes wrestle with relationships? Then a new book…might help you get to grips with making them  more successful." (Professional Manager, September 2007)

"…explores new and powerful ways of building more positive relationships." (Professional Manager, September 2007)

"…[the book] can certainly help you to deal with problems more effectively in both your professional and private life." (Walsall Chronicle,  Thursday 13th September 2007)

"[the book] will help you manage, maintain, grow and move on, in your key relationships with others and yourself." (Personnel Today, Tuesday 23rd October 2007)

Review
"Do you sometimes wrestle with relationships? Then a new book…might help you get to grips with making them successful." (Professional Manager, September 2007)

"…explores new and powerful ways of building more positive relationships." (Professional Manager, September 2007)

"…[the book] can certainly help you to deal with problems more effectively in both your professional and private life." (Walsall Chronicle,  Thursday 13th September 2007)

"[the book] will help you manage, maintain, grow and move on, in your key relationships with others and yourself." (Personnel Today, Tuesday 23rd October 2007)

From the Author
Think of a time when you felt particularly happy and
fulfilled. Now cast your mind back to a time when you felt anxious and
unhappy. My guess is that on each occasion, your positive or negative
experiences involved other people - in other words, our emotional highs and
lows stem from the quality of our relationships with others.

Wouldn't it be great if you could feel even better about your important
relationships, whilst at the same time learn new ways to transform your
more difficult ones? Well that's precisely what the book 'SUMO Your
Relationships' helps you to do.

I've written it based on over twenty years of research, but perhaps more
importantly, over forty years of life experience. My goal has been to shine
some fresh light on the world of relationships both in and outside the
workplace. The insights and strategies are essential for most people
including...

* A boss seeking to motivate their staff
* A member of staff dealing with a challenging customer, colleague or
manager
* A parent wanting to build a better relationship with their children
* Couples wanting to maintain or perhaps regain the sparkle in their
relationship

One of the world's leading authorities on relationships, Allan Pease,
co-author of the international best seller 'Why Men Don't Listen and Women
Can't Read Maps', says of the book: 'This book is full of wisdom, common
sense and practical ideas on improving relationships.
An essential read.'

It will show you...

1. Seven realities you have to be aware of when dealing with people -
ignore these at your peril

2. The single most important and often ignored fact that undermines
relationships whatever the context

3. The two biggest reasons why people keep repeating the same mistake in
how they deal with people - and what to do about it

4. The staggeringly negative affect of 'the boiled frog syndrome' on
relationships and how to spot the warning signs and reverse the process

5. Four reasons why some people will never change - no matter how hard you
try

6. How the see-saw concept will change the way you see yourself and others

7. The skill one leading business guru describes as being absolutely
critical to practice if we're to develop better relationships

8. Six ways to tackle confrontation at home or in the office - without
making matters worse

9. The Seven SUMO characters we all encounter at some time in life
including the one person you absolutely have to avoid when you've had some
bad news (The Awfuliser), the person who constantly steals the limelight
(The Hijacker), the emotional yo-yos (The Swingers), the
can't-decide-ask-me-on-Tuesday (The Ditherer).

Plus you will find pit stops, pearls of wisdom and all the humour and
inspiration you need to make a difference to your life and to the lives of
others.

'The world of business moves on at such a pace that I believe the SUMO
ethos is an essential part of the business person's DNA.' Sir Digby Jones,
former Director General CBI

Paul McGee

Customer Reviews

A fresh look at relationships
If you are fed up with sanctimonious self-help books with idealistic, impractical advice and want to improve your relationships both at home and at work, then this book is for you. Full of Paul's trademark wit and warmth, "S.U.M.O your Relationships" follows up the earlier SUMO wisdom with practical strategies for improving your understanding of relationships and your communication skills. If you keep coming up against the same issues in your relationships, if you sometimes wonder what planet other people are from, or if you just want to be a happier, more effective person, then it's time for you to SUMO. I defy anyone not to find something useful within it's pages. You may think that you are reading it to understand others, but along the SUMO journey you'll learn a lot about yourself too.

Tools for Success
Having recently finished this book and whilst ordering some more copies for friends, I have to confess to being flabbergasted to read one of the reviews on this book. SUMO Your Relationships is PACKED full of practical ideas and insights - it's hard to read more than a couple of pages without reaching out for your notebook (that the author encourages you to use in order to capture your thoughts). Paul McGee's honesty and wisdom oozes from the pages. I particularly liked his emphasis on recognising that we're to look as much at ourselves as we are the other person, in order to building better relationships.

My favourite chapters were "A Bit About the Beach ball" - which builds on one of his original SUMO principles, "Arouse Your Attitude" which contains a hilarious but also very powerful story about how Paul dealt with a client of his called Mark and "Give Yourself VIP treatment". As for the SUMO characters - I defy anyone not to find themselves thinking of countless people they know as they read about the seven SUMO characters, including the Whinger, the Hijacker and the Happy. Perhaps the author's greatest knack though is his ability to have you smiling one moment and then squirming the next as you begin to identify yourself in one of the characters.

If you've read the predecessor to this book, SUMO, you'll love this one -although be prepared for an even meatier read - Paul has crammed loads of great content into this one. If you're new to the SUMO philosophy, then be prepared for thought provoking, honest, yet often amusing insights into the challenging world of dealing with people.

Genuine, refreshing and uplifting

I found this book so refreshing and enjoyable that I still find myself smiling when I recall some of the chapters.
I felt 'hooked'from page 1, and for me that normally is a good sign. In this case, it was a great sign indeed. Paul McGee's ability to connect with the reader from the very beginning and make you really 'enjoy the ride' stands out through the passion, conviction and simplicity that each page radiates.
Every once in a while it is good to be reminded of how amazing we are inside, and if along with that you can be given tools to learn more about yourself, have a laugh and feel uplifted all at once... well, I'm up for it. This is part of what this book did for me.
I loved the way humour is interwoven with some issues I always considered deep when it comes to relationships. It helped me to see how there can be more relaxed views and attitudes that can actually contribute a great deal towards a much happier you and much happier relationships!
My overall feeling after reading the book was, like I said, a much happier and more determined 'me'. It was great to see how a lot of healthy principles can be applied to real situations, as it can be quite challenging at times. Paul McGee seems to somehow always be able to find that 'silver lightning' in every situation and help you find it in your own life as well. Great material.