Product Description

7 Steps to Emotional Intelligence reveals the structure behind Emotional Intelligence (EI), utilising its unique framework to combine EI and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). This model-based guide packed with powerful exercises and self-assessment techniques, enables you to design your own Emotional Quotient (EQ) improvement system, and to participate in an intensive EQ excellence course that draws on the self-programming practices of NLP. A functionally-formatted guide to improving your EQ, this book serves as a textbook of EI theory, a manual of NLP techniques, and a workbook to systematically lead you through the process of dynamic EQ improvement.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #71755 in Books
• Published on: 2001-01-27
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 400 pages

Review
A great book that applies NLP theory in a practical way. Excellent summary of major aspects of NLP ( especially TOTE, Neurological levels, language and rapport), backed up by useful references and research findings sometimes missing from such books. I'd recommend this book to anybody who has completed an NLP practitioner course and would like to know more about the theory and how to apply it in business as well as in their personal lives. The exercises are clear and accessible. As a coach I look forward to using many of these with clients. The book is well laid out and clearly structured to allow you to quickly find the parts of the book which may be of most interest. In the acknowledgements the authors quote Norman Mailer: "Writing books is the closest men ever come to childbearing." When you see the breadth and depth of this book you can understand why they say this. Any pain is well hidden as the book is clear and focused throughout by avoiding the jargon or tortuous metaphors sometimes found in books that tackle a subject somewhere between science and art. David Hodgson, Author of `The Buzz` --David Hodgson, Author of `The Buzz`

This book is interesting, enjoyable and useful. A definite must for anyone who finds that their emotions automatically lead their behaviour and their life. The authors explain clearly the connection between what we feel, what we think and what we do. It is very helpful if you find that you allow others to manipulate or guilt you into doing what they want you to do or if you find that you allow others to push your buttons . Packed with useful exercises and handy tips to aid you deal with conflict comfortably, this book is a good personal development read. It teaches you simple ways to get you life back on track in ways that are best for you. What I like about this book is that the authors don t tell you what to do, they allow each person to design a personal improvement system that suits them. But reading isn t enough you have to do what needs to be done. So give it a go, it s worth it. Terri Bodell NACHP --Terri Bodell NACHP

This comprehensive book, written from a mature NLP perspective and written by three leaders in the field, is loaded with powerful insights to fire up and help you understand- your emotional strength. 7 Steps makes a fresh and authoritative contribution on E.I. for anyone who is keen to extend their learning about the way we human beings work. Take it steady and drip-feed it in each page has nutrients worth absorbing into your bloodstream and you ll not want to miss their empowering effect. Andrew Sercombe, Master Coach, broadcaster and author, Executive Director: Powerchange the Personal Development Service --Andrew Sercombe, Master Coach, broadcaster and author, Executive Director: Powerchange the Personal Development Service

Andrew Sercombe, master coach, broadcaster and author
...each page has nutrients worth absorbing into your bloodstream and you’ll not want to miss their empowering effect

Terri Bodell, NACHP
.. reading isn't enough - you have to do what needs to be done. So give it a go!

Customer Reviews

But Where Is the Emotional Intelligence
Firstly, let's be very clear that this is NOT a book about Emotional Intelligence. It is a book about NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) and the authors' ideas on how to apply NLP techniques. Whether it is about applying NLP to the subject of Emotional Intelligence on the answer to the question of what definition of "emotional intelligence" is being used?

I have been told by one of the authors that "the book contains at least 25% typical emotional intelligence material"
Is it really adequate to have "at least 25% typical emotional intelligence material" in a book called "7 Steps to Emotional Intelligence"?
And what, in this context, is meant by "typical"?
In my opinion it certainly is NOT, for example, "typical" EI in the sense that Daniel Goleman uses the term. Indeed, I'd be surprised if there was as much as 6 pages of material in the entire book that corresponds with any generally accepted definition of "emotional intelligence".
As far as I could see, it looked as though the definition of EI used here was made up for the occasion, partly on the basis of a book by Leslie Cameron-Bandler and Michael Lebeau called "The Emotional Hostage". Indeed, on page 355 the book takes Goleman to task for not having read "The Emotional Hostage" and claims that if he had read it then he "might have been [sic] reached very different conclusions". Yet strangely enough, though "The Emotional Hostage" is praised effusively, "7 Steps" fails to reflect the key ideas in that book.

To be fair, these points might have been pardonable, to some extent, if the book actually added very much to our understanding of NLP, or at least showed us how to use NLP effectively in relation to our emotions. But it doesn't. Which isn't all that surprising since NLP itself has has always been much more directed at dealing thoughts rather than with emotions. It is a significant gap in NLP's coverage of human psychology, and it's a great pity this book doesn't do anything at all, as far as I could see, to rectify the situation.

So, if you are already a fan of NLP, or at least want to know more about it, and if you don't mind that the book does NOT "walk its own talk", then you may find it of interest.
If you want a book on Emotional Intelligence, however, you'll be better off sticking with Goleman and other "mainstream" EI writers.

Waste of money
I think this book is really a waste of money. My reasons for saying this are (1) what it calls emotional intelligence is not like anything you will read about in any of Daniel Goleman's books so in my opinion it isn't really about emotional intelligence at all (2) what it is about is NLP and so it is really only another book telling you all about NLP but it is not as good as other books on NLP that I have read (3) the writing is not very good so it is very hard to read and very long and boring.

I was very disappointed when I got this book and found out what it was really like so I think that one star is all it is worth.

Emotional Intelligence --something we all could use
Emotional Intelligence (EQ) has two components: a) Intrapersonal Intelligence is the ability to recognize and manage one's own emotions, and b) Interpersonal or Social Intelligence is the ability to recognize emotions in others and use that information as a guide for behavior, and for building and maintaining relationships.

This book combines the principles of Emotional Intelligence and Neuro-Linguistic Programming to promote an understanding of how emotions work and how we can manage them effectively for optimum living. 7 Steps to Emotional Intelligence is a structured guide; a workbook packed with individual exercises and self-assessments---an intensive course in EQ excellence that addresses emotional conflict, motivation, beliefs, goal-setting, communication, wisdom, creativity and personal success.

I found this book engaging, clear, and easy to understand. Is it wrong to think that we could choose our emotions, instead of being at their mercy? Does getting control over run-away emotions make us any less authentic? As far as I know, the human dilemma has never been too much happiness, peace, contentment, or satisfaction. Rather, the problem has always been how to cope with and overcome the painful emotions that make us wish we could crawl out of our own skins, or slaughter one another. After eons of biological evolution, and decades of astonishing technological advancement, are our emotions much more developed than those of our ancient ancestors? Perhaps Emotional Intelligence is something we could use more of, as individuals, and as a species.