Product Description

The New York Times Bestseller—with over 100,000 copies sold
Now with a bold new look, this classic bestseller is back with its unique 21-day action plan for curing the addiction many people suffer from—the need for approval and fear of confrontation.

The Disease to Please helps you break away from these fears and helps place more of an emphasis on pleasing yourself first—clearing the path for good health and true happiness.

Recovering people-pleasers take a simple but revealing quiz to see how far their “illness” goes and then learn how to change feelings, thoughts, and behavior that leads to dramatic and positive changes in their lives. The Disease to Please even provides case studies and journal to help you resist the compulsion to comply and develop your choice to care.

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Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #93038 in Books
• Published on: 2002-03-01
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 288 pages

From the Back Cover

What's wrong with being a "people pleaser?" Plenty!

"A fascinating book... If you struggle with where, when, and how to draw the line between your own desires and the demands of others, buy this book!"­­Kay Redfield Jamison, bestselling author of An Unquiet Mind and Night Falls Fast

People pleasers are not just nice people who go overboard trying to make everyone happy. Those who suffer from the Disease to Please are people who say "Yes" when they really want to say "No." For them, the uncontrollable need for the elusive approval of others is an addiction. Their debilitating fears of anger and confrontation force them to use "niceness" and "people-pleasing" as self-defense camouflage.

Featured on NBC's "Today," The Disease to Please explodes the dangerous myth that "people pleasing" is a benign problem. Best-selling author and frequent "Oprah" guest Dr. Harriet Braiker offers clear, positive, practical, and easily do-able steps toward recovery.

Begin with a simple but revealing quiz to discover what type of people-pleaser you are. Then learn how making even small changes to any single portion of the Disease to Please Triangle - involving your thoughts, feelings, and behavior - will cause a dramatic, positive and long-lasting change to the overall syndrome.

As a recovered peoplepleaser, you will finally see that a balanced way of living that takes others into consideration but puts the emphasis first on pleasing yourself and gaining your own approval is the clearest path to health and happiness.

About the Author
Harriet B. Braiker Ph.D. was a bestselling author and practiced clinical psychologist and management consultant in Los Angeles. She was the author of several, highly successful popular psychology books.

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Customer Reviews

Excellent read
This book is a real eye-opener! Makes you aware of the areas you need to work on - believe it or not, there are 3 different kinds of People-Pleasers! Each section gives information on attitudes, thoughts and feelings of each People-pleasing behaviour and general ways to overcome them. Then at the end there is 1 21-day action plan to help you overcome the People-Pleasing Disease - the tricky part is trying not to race ahead to finish it before the 21 days!

I would definitely recommend this book. It is really easy to read and has lots of case examples that are really easy to identify with! It's the only book I've come across that actually tries to change you as a person rather than just making you more assertive in the work place.

Life-changing
Braiker claims here that 'people-pleasing syndrome' is extremely common in modern society. There are those who unwittingly base so much on the judgements of others that they hold themselves back from achieving their full potential. Since I completed the book, day to day living has changed at a rapid pace- particularly with regard to my marriage and in the workplace. The changes may initially feel a little uncomfortable, but it is important to remain strong when your world begins to take on a new shape. As Braiker says, the key to long-term happiness is to be 'true to yourself'. If you achieve an honest relationship with your inner-being, an authentic sense of peace will gradually evolve from within.

PS. If Doreen still can't accept that it's none of her goddamn business if I got sacked for assaulting a whinging client, then the daft old hag can see how she takes to sleeping on the sofa tonight.

very enlightening
this book really opened up my eyes.
I realized how much my people pleasing tendencies affect all areas of my life.
I highly recommend this book.
it's one of the few self help books that I have actually learned something new about myself that i didn't know before.