Product Description

"Bryan Collins explores the common problem of emotional unavailability from an original, practical, and non-judgemental perspective. This book offers usable solutions to this human dilemma." . Michael Share, Psy.D., L.P.. . ""Emotional Unavailability" is an innotive look at ho a person's emotional style impacts his or her relationship patterns. The book goes beyond definitions of the various styles to provide techniques and tools for change." . James W. Keenan, M.S., L.P., Director Power of Relationships, PA. . "I kept falling into stories that sounded uncomfortably like some that litter my own personal landscape." . Trudi Hahn . "Minneapolis Star Tribune," . "Bryn Collins examines the reasons we get into painful, frustrating relationships, and how we can make positive changes without blaming ourselves." . Gerrie E. Summers . "Today's Black Woman," . . In this groundbreaking book, psychologist Bryn Collins opens up the discussion about life with an emotionally unavailable person. Using case studies, quizzes, and jargon-free, easy-to-understand concepts, she profiles the mos common types of emotionally unavailable partners, then offers the skills you need to change these painful associations. Based on her extensive clinical experience, she offers ways to recognize "toxic types" before you get too deeply involved, and she gives the emotionally unavailable partner techniques that teach how to connect with anothe person..

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #7320 in Books
• Published on: 1998-03-11
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 304 pages

About the Author

Bryn C. Collins, M.A., L.P., is licensed psychologist specializing in the areas of family and dispute mediation.

Customer Reviews

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This book was a big disappointment - really the author's thoughts and opinions on different reasons why someone might avoid real intimacy. I didn't find it had any practical application. Steven Carter's co-written books are much more enlightening, as well as giving nitty gritty practical advice. I recommend "Getting to commitment" and "Men who can't love". Much more useful.

Interesting and helpful read
I believe one of the other reviewers referred to this book as one of those "american self help books." I am cautious with such books mostly since despite being a native english speaker, I tend to notice signficant cultural differences when reading them (as a European). This can tend to make the reading experience not so satisfying.

With this book I did notice such differences in the earlier"case study" chapters. However, I stuck with it since I figured the book didnt receive such positive reviews from others without grounds. The later chapters I found to be very interesting, eye opening, and most importantly, helpful. The chapters on emotional location and tools for change were great. I found myself talking to my peers about this book. If you find the content pages of the book inviting and are searching for a book which may suggest ways to change existing habits of communication (which may not be functioning very well) then I fully recommend it.

Nice to have someone explain you're not bonkers
I don't know about you, but being in a relationship with someone who's "emotionally unavailable" can have you wondering about your own sanity. Whenever you try to explain your feelings things somehow become twisted with the result being you end up confused and doubting your own senses. Having been with someone like this for a very long time, this book finally gave me the insight I needed to understand what was happening. I've read a few books like this, without much success, but this one I couldn't put down. I very much recommend it as it really is on your side and will help you clear your mind.