Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #1760 in Books
• Published on: 2003-11-01
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 224 pages

Synopsis
The award-winning, best selling '1-2-3 Magic' book provides practical and easy-to-learn parenting techniques that WORK for children ages 2-12. You won't need to study child psychology to understand the three simple steps in the program and get results quickly! Step 1: Control Obnoxious Behaviour. Learn a simple technique to get your kids to STOP doing what you don't want them to do (whining, arguing, tantrums, sibling rivalry, etc.); Step 2: Encourage Good Behaviour. Learn several effective methods to get your kids to START doing what you do want them to do (cleaning rooms, going to bed, homework, etc.); Step 3: Strengthen Relationships. Learn four powerful techniques that reinforce your bond with your children. You will also learn how to manage the Six Kinds of Testing and Manipulation, how to handle misbehaviour in public and how to avoid the Talk-Persuade-Argue-Yell-Hit Syndrome.

Customer Reviews

This really works
I bought 5 other books on the same subject to help me with my 6 (going on 16 and so fully of attitude) year old daughter and my 8 year old son. Quite simply it works! The key is not to argue with the children which the book emphasises through out. Every time you think "thats all very well but what if...." the question is answered. As a single parent who's ex is very soft with the children I was at my wits end - what can I say IT WORKS!!!! I lent the book to a friend who rang me half way though her holiday in France to tell me that the first few days of her trip had been hell, then she started applying the techniques in the the book and hey presto it works!! Do I really need to say more?

easy to read and remember, is magic!
This book is really good have not used all the techniques yet as my daughter is only 3 years old but what i have used works a treat! i can stop and start different behaviours almost instantly! Saves alot of unwanted shouting at home and public places. Can be a little OTT on a few things but overall really good.

A sensible approach to structured discipline
I'm not a big self-help book fan, but I am an educationalist, and I have used Phelan's approach with my own children. Phelan outlines a straightforward technique designed to reduce the number of confontational and/or undesirable interactions that take place between children and parents. The book highlights some of the critical moments that occur during the course of normal family life, and suggests useful ways of dealing with such tensions using a simple and easily understood approach, that most children over the age of two should respond to well. We have found that if it is used consistently for a week or so, the children respond favourably. Like any family, there are lapses when we are tired or the children are ill, for example, but we have found it relatively easy to bring their behaviour back into line. Gradually the children internalise the rule system and seem to respect it, as it gives them a useful framework for getting on with their parents and enjoying family life. Perhaps one of the nicest aspects of Phelan's book is that it successfully manages to avoid preaching, and relates some of Pehlan's own mistakes and failings. This gives the book a sense of humanity and realism. Overall, I think this book represents good value for money and is a useful tool for busy parents.