Product Description

Your dream of finding a partner is a natural and normal human instinct and your dream is perfectly achievable. Whatever your history, whatever your heartbreak, as a single person you are in an ideal position to learn what you need to know and what you can do to greatly improve your chances for finding, and keeping, love. With KEEPING THE LOVE YOU FIND, renowned relationship therapist and bestselling author Harville Hendrix will help you to: * IDENTIFY your Imago - the fantasy partner that your unconscious mind, which has a hidden agenda of its own, has chosen for you * BREAK FREE from those patterns in your parents' marriage that you have unknowingly accepted as your relationship model * CREATE hope in place of despair, companionship instead of loneliness * DEVELOP communication skills to turn conflict into contact - and togetherness * TRANSFORM every past relationship into a source of positive growth * DISCOVER the rewards of real love - and the little things that make it last ...and more. Filled with wisdom and compassion, KEEPING THE LOVE YOU FIND will help get your next relationship off to the best start and keep your love strong for a lifetime.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #54464 in Books
• Published on: 2005-01-03
• Original language: English
• Binding: Paperback
• 352 pages

Customer Reviews

A great read.
This is one great read in that it gives good, sound advice for the person who has had trouble in the loe department. I think that, for all of us, acheiving long love is the goal of life, and this book can set you on that path. I recommend it, along with How To Be Wanted: Use the Law of Attraction to Date the Man You Most Desire and Live the Life You Deserve.

Useful guide for any person seeking a lasting relationship
The tenet of this book, as is that of the other Hendrix books, is that we carry 'wounds' from childhood into our adult relationships. In order to have lasting, fulfilling, 'whole' adult relationships, we must understand our own wounds and how they affect the type of person we have become and the type of person we are attracted to. Unfortunately, the person we are attracted to is often exactly the type of person who cannot help heal those wounds of childhood: The premise of the book is that we are looking exactly for the type of person who has the NEGATIVE qualities that our care-takers had, so that we can try to 'resolve' the issues we had with those negative qualities. The only solution is that each of the partners in a relationship must learn to 'grow', in order to understand themselves and to help offer their partners the healing 'wholeness' they are seeking. A single person has the advantage in that s/he can do some of this introspective work (with assistance from Hendrix's usually insightful, helpful exercises) before meeting the (next) potential partner. While I do not fully agree with the theoretical basis for Hendrix's position (I think that who we are attracted to is a mix of the 'familiar' and the 'novel'--this only makes it LOOK as if we are searching for someone with the qualities of our caretakers), his exercises are right on the mark. Every single person who is hoping to develop a new, this time lasting, relationship should consider going through the hard work that this book entails; it promises in the long run a healthier, happier loving relationship in the future.

Buy it NOW!
Probably the best self help book on relationships I've come across (believe me, I've read a few!). Can't recommend it strongly enough. The central idea may not be new, yet still very true - in order to have a healthy relationship with another person we must face our own demons, examine and understand ourselves.