Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #79769 in Books
• Published on: 2008-03-21
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 272 pages

Synopsis
The framework used in this revised edition of the best-selling "Breaking Free from the Codependency Trap" differs radically from the prevailing medical definition of codependency as a permanent, progressive and incurable addiction. Rather, the authors identify it as a "developmental fragment" remaining from incomplete developmental tasks during the first year of life. The Weinholds use the first half of the book to describe the developmental causes of codependency and correlate them with problems later in life such as establishing and maintaining boundaries, clinging and dependent behaviours, people-pleasing, and difficulty in achieving success in the world.The second part of the book, which focuses on healing codependency, provides a wealth of case histories and experiential activities that readers can use to help them shift their consciousness and transform themselves and their primary relationships. The book concludes with a chapter describing how Janae and Barry worked through their own codependent patterns.

Repeatedly described by readers as "hopeful" and "visionary", "Breaking Free from the Codependency Trap" presents the Weinholds' groundbreaking developmental approach to shifting consciousness and restoring relationships.

From the Author
Co-dependency is not a disease! You can recover!
This is a book about hope. Much of the literature on co-dependency, unfortunately, leaves readers feeling as though they have some incurable and potentially fatal disease. This has not been our experience! Clients who use our approach find that they can heal the root causes of co-dependency in their primary relationships. This book also explores the cultural sources of co-dependent behaviors and gives many hopeful examples from our client files witnessing their healing experiences.

Customer Reviews

Breaking Free of the Co-Dependency Trap
Co-dependency has become one of those buzzwords for our modern culture. Most of us use the term to describe someone who suffers from alcoholism or drug addiction. Therefore, when we think of co-dependency, we tend to think of programs like AA.

Breaking Free of the Co-dependency Trap states that possibly 98% of the human population is co-dependent. It's not lack of self control. It's not a disease. It's not even about the alcohol, the drugs, the food, or the people pleasing behaviors.

Co-dependency is merely the way that the mind attempts to adapt to its experiences. In the first six months of life, babies are meant to learn that the world is a safe loving place and that his or her parents will always keep them safe. Once they are assured of these facts, then they can start to explore the world in an increasingly independent way.

Unfortunately, parents aren't perfect. The majority don't even know how to give this sort of unconditional love. Most are too busy worrying about day to day concerns. So for most people, their psychological development gets stuck and they spend the rest of their lives trying to gain (or dampen the need for) that love, acceptance, and security. When they have children, their children continue the same cycle.