Product Description

Sherry Argov's fresh and witty Why Men Love Bitches gives no-nonsense advice guaranteed to help the woman who feels she is "too nice" become unpredictable, exciting, and ever so cool! The bitch not only gets her man, she knows how to hold her own in the relationship, keeping him guessing, dazzle him at every turn - and gain his respect with far less effort.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #1251 in Books
• Published on: 2002-10-31
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 272 pages

Review
A quick fix for anyone who feels as if they are a doormat, this is smart, funny and will bring out your inner feistiness. --publisher

Customer Reviews

"Venus and Mars" meet "The Rules" as paradox revealed!
Argov reveals the age-old paradox that continues to baffle women the world over: that men prefer women who are at least somewhat aloof. Don't be put off by the title -- Argov's definition of "bitch" is simply a woman who refuses to put her life on hold for a man. Part "Venus and Mars" and part "The Rules", this easy-to-read book is deceptively simple, yet contains excellent insights into mens' perspectives on what makes some women particularly appealing, while others hold little interest.

Argov offers simple strategies to ensure you err on the side of caution, and the techniques and examples are very straightforward. The book would be especially helpful to women who believe that anticipating a man's every need is the road to happiness in a relationship. The odds for success in romance, according to Argov, increase greatly when the woman puts herself first.

An excellent book for women whose relationships may have lost their lustre, and a useful guide for those wondering what part of their behaviour continues to sabotage their happiness in relationships.

She understands the male mind...a guy's view
Firstly, in this book BITCH means Babe In Total Control Of Herself.

She gives you priciples not 'rules' to transform from ignored or taken for granted doormat to relentlessly pursued dreamgirl, who is independent, strong, and not needy.

Initially, I wondered if Sherry is a guy, because she is so onto us. To her credit she did interview many men, to get these deep insights. In fact she has compiled our secret playbook.

I wonder if it is a good thing to have too many of our deep secrets in female hands, because it forces us to change our lazy relationship ways.

There is a self improvement principle - you teach people how to treat you. So do what you have always done, and get what you always got, or teach them how to treat you right.

So when Sherry suggests, acting a little aloof at first, this may seem counterintuitive, but it works. Staying out of relationship mode for a while, bypasses our natural defenses, and it works. Not giving away your personal power by being too much of a pleaser works. Communicating succinctly, I like that one.

Probably the most important lesson from this book is the importance of communication. A woman who calls a guy on his behavior, is showing several powerful things, she demonstrates higher value by not accepting bad behavior, she is not afraid to convey her feelings even if this might offend the guy, she is not timid and unassertive, she keeps the lines of communication honest, and open.

You will win some and lose some by following the advice in this book. Following this advice too rigidly will not work. It is a matter of finding a balance, and using what works for you. Think of this book as training wheels.

This book, is very good, and I probably should not recommend it but I do.

The bit about faking the orgasm, some reviewers don't like. As Sherry is a stand up comedian, this piece is just supposed to be humorous. In reality, you are teaching the guy that is he is already good enough, whereas some improvement might be required.

Some of the anecdotal advice is funny but extreme. The booty call guy left standing in the rain outside his apartment got his just desserts, but the red panties in the laundry tactic was too much.

My personal opinion, is we men are not that smart at non verbal communication, so things need to be spelled out more.

We also have a limited capacity for processing verbal information, in fact we go into safety shut down after about 30 seconds of talking. After that point, we just nod and grunt as if we are following along.

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Essential - don't leave home without it!
This is the first time i've written a review - that's how much i was impressed by this book! Having been brought up to be a nice girl and always being the one to give her time, efforts & energies - i now realise that putting yourself first isn't selfish - it's essential - the old cliche if you don't value yourself - why should others? rings true.
In the past, i've always been the one to show I care first - make that special effort - but no more - now i'll let myself sit back & enjoy being wooed - without the feeling I don't deserve it.
Truly a life changing book - BUY IT TODAY!!!!