Product Description

Narcissists always make sure that their relationships are organised around their priorities, their agendas, and their problems; they are people who are so self-involved that they can't really relate to their partners' needs. "Help, I'm in Love with a Narcissist" spells out why it's so easy to get romantically involved with narcissists, who are often experts in intensity, passion, and seduction, and also highlights the difficulties of remaining in these relationships. Using detailed anecdotes from narcissism survivors, the authors illustrate the common pitfalls of narcissistic relationships, and help readers come to terms with exactly what they are experiencing. They also draw the connection between narcissism and commitment issues as well as between narcissism and addictive behaviours such as alcoholism. With in-depth analysis, readers will learn how to cope with narcissistic relationships and how to get help or get out. Here are the valuable tactics and survival tips men and women in narcissistic relationships must have in order to take care of themselves. This book helps you: identify narcissistic behaviour and its painful impact; know why you may be particularly vulnerable to narcissists; recognise how narcissists make you feel special (at first); understand why you are doing most of the work in the relationship; learn to avoid future narcissistic seduction; and arrive at a realistic appraisal of your partner's capacity for change. Written with the compassionate language that people have come to rely upon and expect from these proven relationship experts, this book goes beyond an explanation of the condition to help men and women avoid the self-destructive permanence of remaining with people incapable of loving anyone but themselves.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #110109 in Books
• Published on: 2005-01-01
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Hardcover
• 288 pages

About the Author
Steven Carter lives in Los Angles, California. Julia Sokol lives in Bristol, Rhode Island.

Customer Reviews

ALL your questions answered!
Narcissist : person having a behavior which involves infatuation and obsession with one's self to the exclusion of others and the egotistic and ruthless pursuit of one's gratification, dominance and ambition.

Does this sound like your partner? Are you so used to your needs not being met that you've forgotten what it feels like to have those needs met?! For anyone who thinks they may be or have been in a relationship with a narcissist this will answer ALL your questions. If you are struggling in a relationship where you find yourself constantly confused by your partners behaviour, or if you have just come out of a relationship and are wondering what the hell just happened this will help to lay ALL of your confusions to rest. And most importantly will help you stop wondering what you could've done to make it work.
This book also looks at the other significant narcissists you may have in your life that can cause you to seek out narcissists as partners. This book is very much written for the average person without a degree in Psychology so is really accessible. Infact, it had me laughing out-loud at some points at how true some of the personal stories rang for me. This book REALLY could've been written about my entire relationship!
I could not recommend this book more. I am so glad I found it as i've been able to let go of SO many feelings that were holding me back me from getting on with my life after my break-up and also to see what I need to do to not make the same mistake again.
If you seriously want to do something about your situation living with or mourning a narcissist you won't regret buying this. These guys also wrote He's Scared, She's Scared: Understanding the Hidden Fears That Sabotage Your Relationships which I found very good, but had I known about 'Help: I'm in love with a narcissist' before hand I would not have bought it. This book really does sum it all up!
I would however, recommend, as the book does a 12 Step program of recovery if you've consistently been affected by narcissists in your life and are really struggling.