Product Description

A fun, witty and informative guide containing 92 little tricks for big success in personal relationships and business. There are two kinds of people in life. Those who walk into a room and say: 'Well, here I am!'. And those who walk in and say: 'Ahhh, there you are'. In this book, Leil Lowndes writes with wit, irreverence about relationships, body language and how we relate to each other. It contains extremely usable and intelligent strategies for love and business which include: Charming body language and gestures -- the exclusive smile, eyes glued to the other person, 'come hither' hands with palms open etc. Never leave home without the latest news How to give the killer compliment -- not too general and not too frequently given The premature 'we' -- effective empathising how to work the party -- including making an entrance, be the chooser not the choosee, and mingling not munching (for all those who head straight for the food table!).

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #1612 in Books
• Published on: 1999-03-01
• Released on: 2008-06-30
• Original language: English
• Binding: Paperback
• 352 pages

Review
'Does what is says on the tin, with heaps of helpful tips for developing ease in social situations.' Time Out

From the Publisher
By the bestselling author of ‘How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You’). This book is written in the same hilarious style with its 92 simple and effective techniques.

About the Author
Leil Lowndes, an internationally recognized communications expert , has conducted communication seminars for major US corporations, foreign governments and the U.S Peace Corps. She has appeared on hundreds of television and radio programmes. She is author of the bestselling 'How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You'. She is the bestselling author of How To Make Anyone Fall in Love with You (also by Thorsons).

Customer Reviews

Useful book but not what it says on the tin
Dont get me wrong, this is a really useful book with lots of great ideas, all backed up with research into human nature.
A lot of the stuff is common sense, but it is useful to have it confirmed so that the ideas are in the forefront of your mind when you are next socially climbing. (If thats what you want to do!!). However this is really a book for those that already have quite competent social skills and are socially confident. It is also rather aimed at the American personality.
It is easy and enjoyable to read and reeks of optimism.
But it is not a lesson in the basic skills for those that are shy to talk to others, it is more about the fine-tuning of existing communication skills.

Great book, techniques work, but author doesn't like people
Hi

I found this book interesting; I've tried many of the techniques and found that they work very well.

Unfortunately, the author has little genuine warmth, empathy or interest in other people.

One example (not untypical). The authors 'good friend' had started a business and Leil (the author) introduced her to an important - powerful - contact. The author's friend 'messed up' when she contacted the 'important person' - she didn't have a pen and asked him to wait a few minutes whilst she got one. The author's reaction 'that's the last time I'll introduce her to anyone'. Jeez - I'm glad she's not my 'good friend'.

I thoroughly recommend it to anybody who wants to communicate more effectively i.e. get what they want out of other people - respect, friendship, business, a job, etc.

However don't let it turn you into a self-centered, manipulative, jerk.

Remember that communications techniques can help in one off relationships (e.g. a job interview, sales call), can help lubricate new relationships (a first date), and increase your social standing (working a party, or social engagement).

They can't help in long-term relationships (when a date becomes your girl/guy, on the job, parenting, etc.) For that you need to invest in your character.

Happy reading

Afam Edozie

Ever feel tongue-tied? Read this book and change your ways!
I bought this book hoping that I would be able to improve my communication skills which I already thought were good. However, after reading Leil Lowndes wonderful offering I have realised that I did not know many ways to start intriguing conversations or to complement people without sounding like I wanted to get into their good books. Using this book I have been able to rethink the way I talk to people I have just met so I avoid the inevitable, but insincere sounding, 'Wow, it's nice to meet you. What do you do? Isn't the weather nice today?' CONVERSATION OVER!!!
Now I feel much more confident when I approach people that I will be able to hold my own in the conversation department.
In this book Leil Lowndes gives advise about some of the following topics;
1) How to give a positive impression when you first meet someone using body language
2) What to say after saying hello
3) How, by doing a little homework before a social or business meeting you can sound like an 'insider', rather than an outsider.
I recommend this book to everybody. It is refreshing to read a book on communications that really elaborates and gets down to the nitty gritty of what the author is trying to say. This book is thick, and their are 92 tricks for relationship success in any situation, and so you can see that it is very substantial.

Read this book to be comfortable in any situation where you have to talk to others, new aquaintances and old friends alike.