Product Description

From first look and first date to first fight, breaking up and making up, the world of dating can be a minefield for the unprepared. International relationship guru, John Gray turns his expertise to the language and behaviour of dating couples. Asking questions such as: How should you act on your first date? How can you tell if your partner means what he says? Is this love or just lust at first sight? John Gray helps new couples figure out whether they are partners for life or just enjoying a brief encounter. His approach will help both men and women play the dating game with its complex rules of etiquette and behaviour, and explains how to separate fact from fantasy in conversation, body language and future expectations. His humorous insight and practical advice will help young and old alike to reach closer understanding, love and commitment, and have fun on the way!

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #36955 in Books
• Published on: 2003-01-02
• Original language: English
• Binding: Paperback
• 384 pages

About the Author
John Gray is a psychologist and bestselling author of Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus. He is a popular and frequent guest on TV and radio, including Oprah's dynamic Change Your Life TV team.

Customer Reviews

This book makes it all seem easier to bear.....
This book is a real comfort to me. When I first read John Gray's first book a few years ago, I felt that he was asking women to accept unacceptable behaviour from men. Some years later, having read this book, which is tailored more to single people, I now accept that men truly are wired differently from women, and we often get hurt by things that they do because we take their actions personally, when all they're doing is following their own nature. Whilst girls might be advised to "treat 'm mean and keep 'm keen", at the end of the day, the game plan is to make a relationship, not win a battle; being "mean" hurts us too. John Gray preaches the wisdom of giving things time, of letting the man take the lead, of going with the flow. It deals with the difficult moments that leave women distracted and unhappy, such as what to do when he's not so certain he wants to see you, when he doesn't call etc. Somehow he makes it all seem as though it isn't a major tragedy;dating mishaps begin to seem as if they are less evidence of failure and more the result of a practical mismatch. If you accept John Gray's advice, in my experience everyone's happier. The only thing I would say is that I think there are some cultural differences between UK and US dating habits which make some of the advice hard to apply. Although John Gray advocates dating around until a man asks you to stop, I think most British men would assume that once you've got past the intial few dates that you won't be seeing anyone else, and most British women wouldn't want to do it. (Maybe I'm just old fashioned!).

If only I'd read this some 15 years ago!
Reading this book has given me such power! Now that I understand the way that men's minds work, I can avoid falling into the traps that have plagued my relationships over the last 15 years. It's all such basic and logical stuff, but to read it in black and white is a real revelation. A highly recommended read, with useful stuff for those in relationships, as well as singletons.

Success after reading this book
After various unsuccesful relationships I decided to buy this book to see how men's minds work as it has always been a mystery to me. It all became clear after reading the book and the next relationship I had, I decided to handle it differently according to the rules in the book. Well I have success! He is totally besotted with me and I am with him and have not been this happy in a long time. Would recommend that women read this book. Definateley!