Product Description

Whether you're looking for that first meaningful relationship, feel out in the cold after a break-up, are ready to settle down or simply want to enjoy your bachelor lifestyle made more enjoyable with female company, it all comes down to one thing: know how.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #517747 in Books
• Published on: 2000-11-13
• Original language: English
• Binding: Paperback
• 192 pages

From the Publisher
The book men have been waiting for!
Whether you're looking for that first meaningful relationship, feel out in the cold after a break-up, are ready to settle down or simply want your bachelor lifestyle made more enjoyable with female company, it all comes down to one thing: know how.

You need to know what women want and how to tailor that information so that you can comfortably fulfil their desires.

Alan, Denzil and Robert think they might have it sussed . . . starting long before that first kiss, their book offers advice on furthering conversation, boosting your confidence with women and finding compatible partners. Their insights into the twists and turns of forming and building any good relationship alone make required reading.

Make no mistake, this is no book of pap psychology. It won't put hairs on your chest or add an extra inch where you think it's most needed; but every one of its principles has been road-tested to success. Still sceptical? Try it and see.

Warning: This book is for MEN ONLY!!!

From the Author
The dating book men have been waiting for
The principle of our book is so simple it seems some of the press reviews missed it; if you're well prepared for what can go wrong during dating, then you've got more chance of getting things right. Sure, most women won't react badly to an approach from a man who's polite, well-dressed and has a ready smile, but how are you going to handle it if:

Your attempted introduction is met with silence? Her friends try to block you? She likes you but has a partner? Your friend tries to undermine you in front of her? She doesn't like men who are polite, well-dressed and smiley?

And before you deal with any of these scenarios you have to come to terms with the inevitable questions that arise whenever a man spots a beautiful woman:

Should I go over and talk to her? What should I say? How can I cope with any mind games she might play? How can I handle rejection and still save face? How do I make rejection less likely? How do I tell if she's worth persevering with? Can I be myself and still attract her? Does the "right" attitude towards women exist? How can I develop it? How do I let her know I like her without coming on too strong? Can I make it a short-term relationship without leading her on to think otherwise? What's the best way to develop a long-term relationship? Aren't there any less pressurised ways of meeting women? ... I wonder what she looks like naked?

If you're looking for the answers to any or all of the above questions (except the last!) then this is the book for you. You'll get the benefit of our combined thirty years of relationship forming experiences, during which time we have dated women of different ages and from all walks of life. You'll also get our street-level insights of converting all those confusing scientific and cultural theories on sexual behaviour, into practical methods of increasing your dating success.

Even if you don't agree with us, our book will definitely make you think more creatively about the whole concept of dating. And in an age where it has never been more important to use the old grey matter to get by, can any man really afford the "it'll happen when it happens" attitude to finding a partner?

It's time to make your own luck.

Customer Reviews

Promised So Much
I had such high hopes for this book. I'd read "How to Suceed With Women" by Ron Louis and hoped this would be the the UK equivalent of that useful and entertaining book. Not so. Whereas Louis's book gradually steps you up to approaching women for dates this book spends most of it's time telling you how to deal with a hostile attitude from women. In fact you get the impression that pretty much all the women you meet will be hostile and require witty comeback lines, be it the woman you are after or one of her friends. I think there are some good points in here, as the authors concentrate more on the bar/pub scene than Louis's book and of course their experience in with UK women. However the presentation is so poorly laid out that you have to work hard to sort the wheat from the chaff (mostly diatribe on how agressive the women are going to be). Interestingly these authors seem to think that making friends with women is the way to go, whereas Louis reckons that women put you in Friend or Lover category very soon after meeting you. In summary, I would buy this book for the UK take on the dating scene, but I'd also buy Louis's too to fill in the gaps that Withe & Co miss out.

Well worth every penny
Having spent many evenings looking at women that I would love to approach and in the end (through lack of confidence)often going for Women that I dont realy like, but thought would say yes (despicable I know), this book is a real godsend. The favourite chapter for me is "The hardest step" which outlines the psychology for approaching Women in clubs, bars etc. At the end of the day its a numbers game and they teach you how to approach Women in a confident way, what you are likely to encounter (both negative and positive) and how to deal with it. There is excellent advice on dealing with rejection, how to approach women in groups,and how to tell if a women may or may not be interested. At the end of the day, this books sounds like a cheap "pick up guide to Women" and although it can be used like that, it is meant to show men how to select women they realy want. They are doing a favour to both men and women by helping men to be more honest,and have the confidence to go for what they want. There are so many relationships that are based on men (and women) giving up on looking for their ideal partners and going for second best. The result is thousands of unhappy marriages. This book helps men get more choice and experience of women so that they can make a mature and balanced selection of who they want to be with in the longer term. Throughout the book, the words respect, love and honesty prevail in their approach to treating women. Isn't that better than the desperate b******t that many women recieve from inept men who have not refined their social skills in this area? The authors should do workshops for men on this topic, with real life practise sessions in clubs, etc and provide a feedback to other men that are learning these skills. I would definatley sign up to one. Anyone else interested? John from London, UK

A useful guide to women
If like me you are shy and/or feel intimidated around women then this book may hold some very useful advice for you. Even if you feel ok around women but seem to be the one who never scores then again it could be useful. The book is short enough not to be boring but long enough to cover some decent ground. The main thrust of the book is how to approach women and handle the various types of personality you may encounter. It's geared more towards "cold" approaches such as in a pub or club where you have no prior relationship. In my opinion these techniques hardly ever work, and they hurt the ego a lot too. But the advise in this book can be also put to great use when you generally meet women in social situations through friends etc. There is also some decent info on biology thrown in to back up the advise along with some tips on what to do when you finally get a date. Some of the chat-up lines are very corny, but they are fun to read!

It's not about exploitation it's about giving yourself a chance to meet a woman and overcome the usually frosty response you get. The authors write with good practical knowledge and they always treat women with the respect they deserve and ask you to do the same. It's a fun read that will entertain as well as educate, it can also be read again and again to boost your confidence before a certain occasion. Unlike certain other books it is geared towards the etiquette of the British, which I found I could empathize with more next to the cheesy sit-com feel of American books.