Product Description

Leil Lowndes is back with her inimitable blend of hilarious tips and hits-the-nail-on-the-head advice. This is the ultimate guide to mastering the fine art of charming the pants off everyone you meet. Just what is the key to becoming Miss Popular, Ms Charming -- everybody's best friend and the one person who everyone wants to invite to their parties? Full of spot-on tips and intelligent advice based on solid research into human behaviour, How To Make Anyone Like You gives effective strategies for how to attract people with: talk, chat and winning conversation / body language / gestures of friendship Find out how to exude the sort of happy confidence that will bring other people out of their shells and help you to win fans in all sorts of social contexts.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #153976 in Books
• Published on: 2000-11-06
• Original language: English
• Binding: Paperback
• 352 pages

Amazon.co.uk Review
The subtitle "Proven ways to become a people magnet" might have been a better choice of title for this, and certainly one less desperate. Author Leil LowndesLeil Lowndes is an American relationships coach and author of the inevitably successful How to make anyone fall in love with you.

Claiming that the book is backed by sociological studies and that it contains confidential testimony from thousands of people attending her seminars, Lowndes attempts to assure us that this is serious stuff. However, a read through the contents list alone (63 chapters crammed into 300 or so pages with an intro!) will have you chuckling and smiling. In fact the contents list might give you all the tips you need: "What about turning a friend into a lover?2 or "Beauty is as beauty feels", and even "The making of a star: me!"

Given the hazy premise that fear, uncertainty and doubt are at the root of not being liked (Lowndes calls it the FUD factor) and with tips like sprinkling your conversation with "uh huh" when speaking to a woman, it is easy to dismiss this as superficial pap. However, Lowndes does have the gift of the gab, and combined with short sections, plenty of tips and soundbites, this is certainly a quick, easy read. It might even win you a few admirers--if that's what you really want. --Lorna V.

About the Author
Leil Lowndes is an internationally acclaimed communications expert. She has conducted communication seminars for major US corporations foreign governments and the U.S. Peace Corps. She has appeared on 100's of TV and radio programmes.

Customer Reviews

Not for men!
I'm sure this book is great for women, but to me, a bloke, it was outright painful to read. The whole of the material, every concept, idea, thought, every sentence is just too female in nature to make this work for me. OK that probably sounds strange, but it's very true.

Also, I did not at all feel at home in the image she seems to have of men as some kind of baseball-watching, beercan-swinging, woman-conquering, shoot-from-the-hip, superior and slightly dangerous aliens from mars, who need to be treated in very delicate ways. Men are just people too, you know, Leil.

In the end, I just had to put the book down.

If you're a bloke and want a book on this subject, look for something written by a fellow bloke.

Lots of good ideas and helpful info - mostly quite useful
'How to make anyone like you', is similar to many self help books in that it is exceedingly optimistic. There is apparently no limit to what you can achieve by being a friendly person and accumulating a good 'network' of useful friends to be helped by and to help in turn. It's all very good in theory, and there is definate potential for a life changing read in this book.

However, I think it is unlikely that many people will act quite so emphatically upon the good advice contained within the pages of this book. The reason for this is that a great deal of the ideas put forward, require someone who is a little more outgoing than most, and not so scared of acting differently to others. The reason I see this fault may be simply that the UK doesn't fall into the target audience of the book, which does seem to be mainly aimed at an American reader. There are numerous reasons I think this, America being generally thought of as a less inhibited nation, being just one of them.

There are lots of useful litte tips though, that anyone can use to their advantage. Many seemingly obvious differences between the sexes, are highlighted with the aim of giving both men and women an idea of how to behave differently, in the company of friends of the opposite sex. These kind of tips and many others, give the book a certain level of usefulness whatever kind of person you are.

'How to make anyone like you', is a well written book, that offers enough good advice to make your success in its subject matter, have a good correlation with the amount of effort you put in to making Leil Lowndes' ideas work. Basically, the more you take her ideas on board and incorporate them into your life, the more liked you will end up being.

A solid, enjoyable read
There is no doubt that Lowndes has a superb informal style of writing, sharing anecdotes as though she were in the room with you. However, some of her tips almost seem common sense in my mind - almost all of the friends that I know use at least some of her communication techniques, especially speaking as though they were the listener. Also, as a man I found some of the gender stereotyping (whether backed up by sociological studies or not) a little curious. If I had someone blankly stare at me whilst speaking and not nod or make it known that they are paying attention, I would either be offended or just plain freaked out.

Regardless, the book is excellent to brush up your social skills and is genuinely useful, especially in chapters such as networking and the unique approach that Lowndes recommends at parties. The reader might best be advised however that although the book contains truthes, they aren't all necessarily universal.