Product Description

A clinical psychologist, Dr. Paul Hauck is the author of "Jealousy" and "How to Be Your Own Best Friend". With this book, he shows how to cope with the thoughtless behaviour of other people.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #328428 in Books
• Published on: 1998-04-30
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 96 pages

Customer Reviews

Develop a strategy to enable you deal with awkward people
Life throws up many hurdles that must be overcome if we are to develop and mature as decent human beings. Of all the 'tests' that we must surmount, surely one of the most difficult is dealing with people who make our lives a misery.
We have all met them: the 'control freak', the 'spoilt brat', the 'pessimist' (loser)and so on.
'They' might be a work colleague, boss, brother, sister or parent for that matter. Whoever they are, it is likely that you cannot cannot easily get them out of your life.
By the same token, as you read through this excellant book by Dr Paul Hauck, you might just recognise yourself as having some of the characteristics mentioned above. If so, you will have no excuse in doing some self-improvement to make life happier for those you come into contact with.
The author makes it extremely plain that it is unlikely that the person with objectionable behaviour will change to someone more acceptable merely by you pointing out their faults to them. NO, he is quite definate in saying that in order for someone to change it is YOU who will have to change first.
He is critical of those of us who are too passive or tolerant in accepting extreme behaviour. He states quite rightly 'that you get the behaviour that you tolerate'. Another way of putting it is 'we must teach others how to treat us'.
On the other hand, he states that one option you have is to accept the obnoxious behaviour of these people.
Paul Hauck does not promise of guarantee satisfactory outcomes, quite the opposite, he states that those objectionable people quite often reject you, temporarily at least.
To some people this might seem like the end of the world, particuarly if the perpetrator is your spouse. The author writes truthfully that rejection by another is one of the most common fears humans have, but says that you will get used to it in time. To back this statement up he sites that life goes on after someone dies which in some respects is not unlike being rejected.
No, most of us have an unreal way of dealing with difficult people and nothing changes other than an increase in our frustration.
As an example, he quotes several biblical references about showing love in order to get people to like you. As a sometime church-goer myself I have tried the Christian way in dealing with difficult people and it has been nothing less than an unqualified failure. Not always, but too often.
After reading this book I now feel much happier within myself and no longer fear dealing with people whose attitudes cause much unhappiness.
This is a great book at such modest cost - buy it, study its contents and put it into practise. You won't be sorry.