Product Description

Men have always valiantly stuggled to elicit the female orgasm but rarely will a man ask: "What do i do?" Now, the answer can be right on the tip of his tongue. For the sexually cliterate man the mystery of female satisfaction is solved and the tongue is mightier than the sword. Oral sex has long been considered an optional aspect of foreplay when its real role is as coreplay, the best, tried and tested, guaranteed, way for bringing a woman through the entire process of sexual response. 'She Comes First' is an encyclopaedia of female pleasure, with dozens of techniques for satisfying your female partner and illustrated step-by-step instructions that will ensure success. Fun, informative and accessible Ian Kerner introduces a new era in sexual relationships, where the exchange of pleasure is for mutual fulfilment. 'She Comes First' is the sexual philosophy of a new generation, a sex manual dedicated entirely to women's pleasure for both men and women.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #6542 in Books
• Published on: 2005-04-21
• Original language: English
• Binding: Paperback
• 242 pages

'The Guardian'
Readable and friendly, and resolutely women-centric… just the sort of talking point we need to get us started.

'More'
"Bigger, better, longer orgasms guaranteed."

'The Independent'
"A sex manual that places the female orgasm centre-stage... the definitive
cunnilingus manifesto."

Customer Reviews

An excellent place to start (though a bit prescriptive & misses out one erogenous zone!)
When I asked my new boyfriend to go down on me, he said he'd tried it once but didn't like it because he "wasn't very good at it". He begrudgingly agreed to give it a go next time, which wasn't exactly a great turn on!

So I went to Hoxton's women only sex shop Sh! & asked what they recommended to help my boyfrienf find his inner passion for cunnilingus, so we could enjoy it together. The shop assistant recommended this book, together with some flavoured lubricant (she said could this help him to overcome any initial reticence to get stuck in - the flavour wears off of course, leaving the man basking in the woman's natural scent & taste, by which time hopefully he'll enjoy it).

I read the book first, to see what information my boyfriend would be primed with and ... well, it's not perfect.

For a start, the diagrams are a little hard to understand: they would be infinitely better in colour, & should also show the woman's genitalia both before & during arousal, & should compare them with male genialia, so that readers really get it into our heads that male & female genitalia are very similar, just positioned differently, & that women have erections too!

I think it is this anatomical knowledge that will help guys understand why they need to do certain things: women need exactly the same stimulation as men, maybe more, but our bits are arranged differently, which is why penetration alone will not work for many of us.

Anyhow, after squinting at the diagrams, I figure they are a pretty good start at least in giving guys a rough idea of where to aim for, & why (but can you name the missing erogenous zone ...?).

However, I also felt the text was a bit dense in places: it might put some guys off that it's so detailed. I think the book should reassure men that they just need to get an overall impression of what goes where: there's no test at the end! Take a deep breath, read it through & emerge the other side full of knowledge!

Also, although I think the title is great - & really helpful!! - it is inaccurate: the book is solely and completely about the technique of cunnilingus. It touches briefly on all the other stuff the man needs to do, but really all it does is to lay out a military campaign for how to use your tongue on a woman.

Also, it is very prescriptive: first do this, then do this, then do this. I can tell you, not all women will like this specific order. Not all of us need our ankles tied together either (yes really!). Also, in order to remember everything, I think the man would have to record it onto tape then play it on headphones while he was down there ...

That said, overall the book is great & one I would recommend; but not as the sole book you buy, for the reasons above. I think the main benefit of the book is that a MAN is explaining, in guy language, what he needs to do rather than the woman trying to explain (some men see it as undermining to be "told what to do" in bed, so an independent third party reference source can be useful). It allows a man to go away & study up on an area he may feel he lacks skills in, rather than waiting to the heat of the moment then getting worried he won't "do it right".

If all a man takes away from this is that (i) penetration alone doesn't work & why, & that (ii) women need just as much stimulation as men then this is a giant leap towards orgasms for all!

One of my favourite books
I like to reread this book because it was eye-opening and very valuable for me. I didn't know that the female intimate zone consists of so many different parts and is extremely sensitive due to a huge number of nerve endings. I am happy that so knowledgeable expert describes step-by-step which part after which part to stimulate in order to lead your lady to orgasm. I feel a lot more comfortable when it comes to orally pleasing my wife after I read this book. She doesn't have to be that involved now because I simply follow the clear and very detailed instructions and she literary melts in front of my eyes. I agree that she comes first and yet guys do pamper yourself as well with the secrets from "scientfically guaranteed male multiple orgasms and ultimate sex". My experience shows that when both partners have mind blowing time in bed spontaneity, libido and passion increase with each love making. I believe that every caring for his sexual education, performance and lady man should read she comes first. It is one of the few that contains exclusive and very valuable information that will make a great difference for your girl and your confidence.

A great book for most guys.
This book can really help a guy understand things he didn't before. It's a good one to start with. I found loads of good info. I also liked Sex Machine: A Man's Guide to What Really Pleases a Woman in Bed and would recommend it as well.