Product Description

This guide outlines the steps women, as well as men, can take to strengthen good relationships and heal difficult ones. It is also available on two 90-minute audio-cassettes from HarperAudio.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #11205 in Books
• Published on: 2003-09-18
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 255 pages

Customer Reviews

Insightful and helpful book
This book was loaned to me by a counselor who I had worked with on my way out of an abusive marriage. Longing for a connection with someone who was not abusive, I couldn't understand the distancing that was taking place until I read this book. I also gained valuable insight into why my intense efforts to coerce cooperation from my 3 year old were, in fact, a result of trying to reduce the anger of his abusive father - a triangle I had imposed. The information can be a good tool to help sort out relationships that haven't gone smoothly.

Some helpful information and the gift of a common vocabulary
It may sound pop-psych. It may sound trendy, but there is something to the idea that successful relationships, harmful or healthy, involve the participants moving in tandem. When one tries to change the steps, perhaps toward a healthier mode of behavior and relating, the other partner is likely to try anything to return to the common "dance." It IS helpful to identify these patterns, whatever name you want to give it, whatever "hook" or "spin." Having a common language to identify these behavior patterns is helpful, above all, if that's the only thing you get from the book, though I believe there's much more here than that.

Excellent
This book was recommended to me at a very difficult time in my life. It helped me develop new ways of dealing with problematic relationships and people by first looking at my reactions and how I dealt with the situation. I truly believe that this is the best way because we all have the ability to be happy in our relationships if we are able to calmly work through problems and keep in mind the guidelines that the book provides.