Product Description

Named One of the 10 Best Parenting Books of the Year by Child Magazine, this revised edition teaches you to minimize stress during initial breakups and ultimate separation, explain divorce so children don′t blame themselves, protect children from parental hostilities, and navigate conflicts of loyalty and alliance.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #193327 in Books
• Published on: 2001-05-25
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 256 pages

Review
"Dr. Teyber writes in the mature voice of a seasoned clinician, providing parents with not only his own observations, but a substantial amount of conclusive research regarding the effects of divorce on children, accompanied by realistic, age–appropriate advice for the whole family." (Child Magazine)

"Will be extremely helpful to any parent going through the process of divorce. It is conceptually sound, easy to read, and has important information for parents, professionals, and anyone who is working with children whose parents are going through divorce." (Hugh McIssac, LCSW, director, Family Court Services, The Superior Court, Los Angeles County)

"An outstanding book. It reinforces the value of putting children first and acknowledges children′s need for both parents during and after the divorce. Teyber clearly describes the stress and pain children experience and explains how best to shield them from the parent′s own conflicts. . . . Essential reading. . . ." (David L. Levy, Esq., president, Children′s Rights Council)

"Dr. Teyber covers the importance of parenting skills [in offering] stability and continuity in critical stages of child development following a divorce." (Louis Welch, director, Child Custody Reform Project)

". . . should be recommended reading for any parent going through a divorce. Teachers, counselors, therapists, family law judges, and attorneys will find Teyber′s book a valuable adjunct to their work." (Benson Schaffer, L.A. County Superior Court (retired), Family Law Mediator)

From the Back Cover
"Dr. Teyber writes in the mature voice of a seasoned clinician, providing parents with not only his own observations, but a substantial amount of conclusive research regarding the effects of divorce on children, accompanied by realistic, age–appropriate advice for the whole family." —Child Magazine "Will be extremely helpful to any parent going through the process of divorce. It is conceptually sound, easy to read, and has important information for parents, professionals, and anyone who is working with children whose parents are going through divorce." —Hugh McIssac, LCSW, director, Family Court Services, The Superior Court, Los Angeles County "An outstanding book. It reinforces the value of putting children first and acknowledges children′s need for both parents during and after the divorce. Teyber clearly describes the stress and pain children experience and explains how best to shield them from the parents′ own conflicts. . . . Essential reading. . . ." —David L. Levy, Esq., president, Children′s Rights Council "Dr. Teyber covers the importance of parenting sills [in offering] stability and continuity in critical stages of child development following a divorce." —Louis Welch, director, Child Custody Reform Project ". . . should be recommended reading for any parent going through a divorce. Teachers, counselors, therapists, family law judges, and attorneys will find Teyber′s book a valuable adjunct to their work." —Benson Schaffer, L.A. County Superior Court (retired), Family Law Mediator Edward Teyber, Ph.D., is professor of psychology and director of the psychology clinic at California State University, San Bernardino. He received his M.A. and Ph.D. degrees in clinical psychology from Michigan State University. He is also the author of two counseling textbooks: Interpersonal Process in Psychotherapy: A Relational Approach and coauthor, with Faith McClure, of Casebook in Child and Adolescent Treatment: Cultural and Familial Contexts.

About the Author
EDWARD TEYBER, is professor of psychology and director of the psychology clinic at California State University, San Bernardino. He received his M.A. and Ph.D. degrees in clinical psychology from Michigan State University. He is also the author of two counseling textbooks: Interpersonal Process in Psychotherapy: A Relational Approach and coauthor, with Faith McClure, of Casebook in Child and Adolescent Treatment: Cultural and Familial Contexts.

Customer Reviews

Does exactly what it says on the tin
This book draws a clear line between divorce and the quality of parenting afterwards, showing that it is the latter that will affect how your children thrive. It is a sound manual full of well-founded advice on how to take responsibility for your role and parent your children successfully, even if your ex is unco-operative or undermines you. It encourages parents to act like grown-ups where the children are concerned and gives you tools to shield them from the worst of the situation.

The book provides lots of information on the issues affecting different age-groups and genders, without resorting to stereotype. Unlike a lot of books, it is equally applicable to fathers and mothers and although written by an American, works well for UK parents. Although it refers to marriage and divorce throughout, it is about parenting after any break-up.

As a woman with two mother-fixated pre-schoolers, I have found the book really useful in clarifying why their father's role is so important and how I can get the best out of his (not altogether responsible or pro-active) parenting style.

Expensive, worth every penny, thoroughly recommended.

MANDATORY READING FOR ALL DIVORCING COUPLES
My ex-wife and I purchased and read this book at the earliest stages of divorce proceedings, as soon as one of us had decided to get a divorce.

We had numerous questions and concerns about our kids and were both in a state of mental confusion and disarray, partly fuelled by preconceptions as to the "necessarily" disastrous effect of divorce on children.

This amazing book set about clearing the air and the record, and gave us tremendous confidence that by doing things in the right way, our kids could come through the divorce unscathed and perhaps even happier than they were before.

We made the (considerable) effort to follow the guidelines closely and the results were amazing. Our kids showed text book responses when told the news, and by planning things properly we were able to respond effectively, and our kids have accepted the new situation practically with equanimity.

I cannot recommend the book highly enough - it should be mandatory reading for all divorcing couples. In fact, I was sorry that I had not read it at the start of my marriage, as the book also contains a lot of insight that would have been useful for the marriage itself.

Best read in conjunction with another book.
I bought this and FAMILY COURT HELL by Mark Harris. The advice in HELPING CHILDREN COPE WITH DIVORCE is best digested after reading FAMILY COURT HELL, which graphically shows what can happen if one parent chooses to be obstructive. Be a great idea if all divorcing parents could be made to read both books first. I strongly recommend buying both books and reading cover to cover whatever stage of the divorce process you are in or approaching.