Product Description

This book explains violent and abusive behaviour and places it in a social context. It can help readers of any age and sexual orientation to change their own bahaviour and to recognise when they are being controlled.

Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #13631 in Books
• Published on: 2008-03-01
• Format: Illustrated
• Original language: English
• Binding: Paperback
• 121 pages

Review
Pat Craven seems to know my husband! --Reader

Thank you for the book. The warning signs have helped me not to make the same mistake again. --Reader

I can honestly say that without reading that book (9 times no less) I dont' think I would be here today relaxed in my own home with my children that I love so much. --Reader

About the Author
Pat Craven, a former Probation Officer has worked with violent men for many years. She wrote this book in order to share the knolwedge she gained with the wider public.

Customer Reviews

A fascinating treasure-house of essential knowledge.
As a man, I would not recommend that women read this book....
I would recommend that EVERYONE read this book! This is the best and most important book you will ever read, about relationships - and it could just save your life. Like a user-friendly guide to the Inner-workings of a complicated machine, it lays bare the mechanisms of power and control and the tactics used to hold women in abusive relationships. Then, it reassembles them into a comprehensible and frighteningly recognisable whole - 'The Dominator' -who lives and breathes and fairly strides across the pages.

Brilliantly illustrated and captioned, this is no man-hating rant but a book bursting with knowledge, humour and profound insight into a complex problem, a book that readily and poignantly acknowledges the decent men among us. Deliciously dissident and wickedly witty, it had me laughing out loud, at times. On a more sombre note, the section on children is a chilling triumph - a blistering prophecy on how we are shaping our future. So, if you've ever wondered about the health of your own relationship - If you've ever asked the question, "Why don't they just leave?" Or if you simply want to learn a stack about these complex Issues - Then buy this book and read it Now! You'll read it again and again - as I have. A fascinating treasure-house of essential knowledge.

Probably the most concise of description of Domestic Abuse
I stumbled on this book by chance, my story is similar to Pat Craven's. As a serving Police Officer domestic abuse is probably the most important issue the police deal with day in day out!However ours is a organisation that loves to get results and detect crimes. Domestic abuse is far more complicated than that. As a young police officer, I used to think why do they stay with them? Surely it would be easier to leave. But this book explains why? and how? I now understand. What this book does is empower you, because now you know that you are not alone, there are thousands of women and children who are going through exactly what you are experiencing. It gives you the plain facts and lets be honest these men are predictable and self centred. Now you know his tactics you can plan ahead! Every man and women on this planet should read this book, it will save you from a lot of aggravation, worry and upset. This book will help you spot a menace from 100 yards, thank you Pat.

Everyone should read this
This should be required reading for everyone and I intend using it in my teaching at university. It is accessible, jargon-free, funny and insightful. Jacky's cartoons bring the 'dominator' into sharp relief but also help to show him for what he is. Pat has brought her lifetime of experience into a really valuable book - is it time for a book on the teenage 'dominators-in-training' to inform girls and young women?! This book is a great tool in helping to re-balance power in relationships and alert women to danger signs. My favourite page is 'Not a saint that we are seeing just a decent human being' (p15) - that is the man we all deserve! Well done Pat and I really hope it becomes a best-seller because it deserves to be.